Divorce rates in India and what parents need to understand

“It is sacred and beautiful”, they say. And, when you decide to end your marriage, it is the biggest blasphemy. Wondering why? Simple – how dare you even think of breaking the nuptial knot? Questioning the sanctity of a bond which is as pure as marriage is a taboo in an Indian society. Fix it, they say, even if it suffocates you. Or, there is another option – live with it silently. Live with your partner even their even presence is making your life difficult. Live with them even when you know that might be already with someone else. Live with them even they care least about you. Live knowingly that you are dying every day. Live with them even if you know you would be rather much happier without them.  Why? – Because only death can be the reason to set you apart!!!

That’s what most Indian parents suggest and believe in? Right? Well, here is the thing, dear parents. There is something which you should understand and respect about this generation and the reason for the increasing rate in divorce. We acknowledge the fact that marriages do fail and the best thing that can be done is walk away.

First thing first, nobody under the sun gets married to get divorced one day. In fact, just like you, they do not even like the concept of getting divorced. It is as unfortunate for them as for you. put in more efforts! Fix it! This is something they probably did. Please understand that the decision o file for divorce is rarely impulsive. Perhaps, your daughter or son spent months, or even a few years, to fix things before taking this decision. Instead of blaming and shaming them for this decision of theirs, support them because this is what they require the most.

Yeah, we do understand that you went through your share of marital issues as well.  And, you are still married. However, that in no way indicates that you have a successful relationship. Just look around. There might be many couples who choose to succumb to a failed marriage. You had your reasons to stay; your kids have their own reasons to walk out. You should be glad that your kids are willing to leave a failed marriage. Is not it better to leave person who we cannot see eye to eye.

Compatibility is not a first world term. It is much more than having common share of interests in the choice of popcorns and movies. Financial troubles infidelity and violence are not the only three “red flags” in a marriage.  There is a lot more that can go wrong between two people. Saying that does not mean that they are not good people. It is just that they are different and have different reasons of not continuing with the relationship further.  If they can take a decision to leave a failed marriage then understand, a lot goes into thinking. Be with them; rather urge them to live a suffocated life.

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